Sad I have to write this out, but abuse and trauma have zero benefits to anyone’s life. You can learn anything the kind way. You can become anyone the kind way. There is no reason whatsoever to traumatize you. Everything can be done without abuse.
Furthermore our reaction to trauma can go a myriad of ways.
We could become selfish or cruel from trauma so if you became better after trauma it was because you wanted to not because the trauma forced you too.
Kids these days have worse internet safety skills than we did growing up somehow and our parents didn’t know what tf the internet was nor how dangerous it could be. What is going on. Someone help them.
It sells single-serving portions of fresh produce because we can never eat it all before it spoils.
Individually packaged/small packs of non-perishable snacks and cereal because we’ll open a big bag, eat maybe a third of it and get burnt out, then it sits in our cabinet for months and goes stale.
On the other end, non-foods/toiletries are sold in bulk so we don’t have to keep forgetting to buy them.
Boys/young men these days are literally trained to believe they’re entitled to sex “or at least something (aka blowjobs)” and are taught that a girl with expressed boundaries has something wrong with them and should be avoided. God forbid she wants to “wait till marriage”, that’s “far too much to ask for”.
Certain men in the Western cultures feel entitled to sex acts outside of marriage. Certain men in the Middle Eastern cultures feel entitled to that inside of marriage. Not talking about physical expressions of affection that comes from mutual love and respect, but that obnoxious forceful cold entitled demand, whether it’s mental or physical. Not sure it comes from training per se. I think it may come from bad character or perhaps also from lack of training that provides basic principles to reign in those urges. I have also witnessed many Western women act in this inappropriate manner right before my eyes. Shaming boys and men or physically harassing them for not providing sex acts on demand with cold entitlement, inside or outside of marriage. This is inappropriate behavior regardless of gender or background but it seems to be a sign of our times. I think shaming of sexual abstinence is only getting stronger despite widespread promotions of “sexual freedom”, which should include the freedom to choose when to engage in sex acts and in which manner, free of social shaming or coercion. Should but instead did the opposite and put a cultural chokehold on one’s sovereign choice to abstain. Those who demand others to “live and let live” without being subjected to shame or criticism aren’t so keen on practicing what they preach. But hypocrisy is a human condition that manifests in the religious and the nonreligious alike.
I know it’s tough for everyone but please, please be extra nice and patient with little kids right now. they’re going through so much, we’re not going to understand the amount of worldwide trauma these kids have for years, but for context: a five year old who has memories only from the age of three has spent HALF their conscious life under quarantine. they haven’t interacted with other kids in person. they’ve only seen people with masks. they’ve spent all this time in a home with distressed adults and little stability without truly understanding why. for a massive chunk of their conscious life. so if a kid comes up and talks to you just let them have your attention for a few minutes. don’t snap at a child crying or having a meltdown in public, and don’t make the parent feel guilty. it’s not that difficult to be kind.
i’m gonna go the extra mile and say even when all this is over be patient with kids! Be kind to kids! They’re just tiny people i promise u it won’t hurt to be kind to them!
I really believe there’s some sort of “emperor’s new clothes” phenomenon happening with Gen Z discoursers where they’re too afraid to question the logic of some of the discourse being thrown at them for fear of appearing to be unwoke so they just blindly parrot it not to be excluded by their peers
people in the notes going “this is why it’s important to have critical thinking skills, critical thinking this, critical thinking that”, but when I wrote the post I was thinking less about lack of critical thinking and more about lack of guts to look at a piece of discourse you know deep down op could be bullshitting and go “bruh, i think you’re bullshitting”, with no fear of appearing unwoke for the mere crime of publicly questioning what you’re told is the correct opinion to have. the point of the emperor’s new clothes is not that everyone was gullible, it was everyone was cowardly, they all knew there was a possibility of it all being a con, but to say it out loud would be outing themselves as stupid in case that it weren’t. it takes someone who doesn’t give a fuck about how they’d be perceived to say the truth out loud for everyone to feel safe expressing what they were thinking all along.
Boys/young men these days are literally trained to believe they’re entitled to sex “or at least something (aka blowjobs)” and are taught that a girl with expressed boundaries has something wrong with them and should be avoided. God forbid she wants to “wait till marriage”, that’s “far too much to ask for”.
Much of my path to inner peace has been about realizing, “There are always going to be people in the world who think I am an immoral and dangerous piece of shit who is actively making the world worse with every word I speak and every breath I take, and that’s actually okay. I don’t have to care, I don’t have to prove them wrong, I don’t have to do anything. We’ll never be friends but I can just keep existing and let them also keep existing.”
Even God isn’t liked by everyone. Don’t put yourself under that kind of pressure
Highlighting this disturbing yet accelerating trend are two very recent examples. The first is an op-ed in the Washington Posttitled “Yes, kink belongs at Pride. And I want my children to see it.” The author, one Lauren Rowello, tells of taking her elementary-school-age son to Philadelphia’s Pride parade. When the little boy asked why some participants were acting like animals and “playfully” hitting each other, she explained that they were just “celebrating who they are and what they like to do.”
Rowello goes on to say that exposing children to “kink” allows them to “shamelessly explore what brings joy and excitement.” And she insists that “we don’t talk to our children enough about pursuing sex to fulfill carnal needs that delight and captivate us in the moment.”
Tell you what, Mr(s). Morally Superior And Totally Not Bigoted Karrius:
When there shall be an article on Christianity Today or The Gospel Coalition saying that “Kink belongs at the Mass and I want my children to see it”,
When The Federalist publishes articles with titles such as “Why you should buy your children sex toys”,
When Christian Aid and Open Doors start advocating worldwide for legislation which would eliminate laws limiting the legal capacity of adolescents to consent to sex,
When Kirk Cameron and PureFlix start making movies where underage girls perform erotic dances and emulate dance moves from sexualised music videos, Rotten Tomatoes rates the movies 82% Fresh, and Christians defend them, while dismissing opposition as “uninformed heathens” and “Christophobic conspiracy nuts”,
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